Troika (2004-2016)

2009_Holiday_Card_1Sad news, our dog Troika passed away at 1:30pm this afternoon (Wednesday, June 1, 2016) at home. She was a hurricane Katrina rescue and the three of us made a wonderful family for ten years. She was about 14, which is a long life for a big dog. She had been increasing ill since Vinny Allegrini’s death last March.

Troika had stopped eating and drinking a few days ago and we had a Vet come over to see her. Last night we cuddled in bed, and this afternoon two friends, Greg and Michael came over and she passed away peacefully.

Vet surmised an abdominal mass, which would have been fairly painless for her.

She had a great life! She was the “April 2016” calendar dog for PAWS-NY, the terrific volunteer organization that has made such a big difference to our family over the last two years. They provided volunteers to walk Troika morning and night (and to check in on me).

PAWS-NY would be a wonderful organization to donate a small gift in Troika’s memory

In Memory of Vinny Allegrini (9/11/48-3/4/15)

This website and blog were originally setup as “” to share the day-to-day details of our health battles. This was both because we were so fortunate to have so many people who wanted to hear details of how things worked out and the larger picture of sharing our story to inspire others.


A Celebration of Vinny Allegrini’s (9/11/48-3/4/15) Life v10.pdf

Help Remember The Saint Discotheque (1980-1998)


URGENT REQUEST — Don’t Let The Saint be forgotten!
My deadline is Sunday, November 2, 2014.

On Wednesday 10/29, I went to 105 Second Avenue to witness a brass plaque (see above) commemorating the site of the Fillmore East Theater (1968-1971) — there was no mention of The Saint Discotheque (1980-1998), which occupied the space for three times as long.

When I asked, I was told that the Fillmore changed music and social history and The Saint didn’t. I think no one in this group would agree.

I have been asked to write a “reported op-ed piece” for a local newspaper and I’m looking for quotes (that you are willing to have attributed to you with your name) on why The Saint was important and should be remembered in the history of New York and beyond.

You can post them or e-mail me at with your comments or questions

To be fair, there is a mention of the Saint carved in stone around the corner on East 6 Street at the entrance to the Fillmore apartment building (see below).

The Greenwich Village Society for Historic Preservation’s newsletter gives this larger history of 105 Second Avenue: “The building, which is located in the East Village/Lower East Side Historic District, was a destination for entertainment both before and after the Fillmore East. It opened in 1926 as a Yiddish theater, soon becoming the Loew’s Commodore movie house, followed by the Village Theater. In the 1980s it was the trendsetting gay nightclub The Saint, becoming Emigrant Bank in 1995, and Apple Bank in 2013. While the facade retains much of its original Medieval Revival style, the rear of the building, which housed the auditorium, was demolished and replaced by the Fillmore apartment building in 1997.”

Please help me remember The Saint together…

Mark de Solla Price <>


Vinny Allegrini Tested Positive for a Staph “G” Infection in his blood

For those who don’t know, Vinny Allegrini just got out of the hospital on Thursday 9/11 (his birthday). He’s been in Beth Israel three times in three months for various medical issues.

Currently, he has a Staph “G” Infection in his blood (which can be serious and even fatal) and is getting two or three weeks of a heavy-duty IV Antibiotics through a PICC Line.

Every morning at 10 AM, I connect up into Vinny’s new plumbing port and go through the “SASH” Technique (injecting Saline, Antibiotics, Saline, and finally Heparin). Except during that half hour, you wouldn’t know he even has that line.

Vinny does have side effects from the IV Antibiotic Ceftriaxone (the generic form of Rocephin®, which can be nasty stuff.

He is slowly returning to being active, mobile, and cutting hair. He is some times in a wheelchair, somethings a rolling walker and sometimes a walking cane.

— MarkHBO logoPS: Folks often tell me that they  they don’t see the link to watch our HBO documentary — it’s on the RIGHTs

Yes, Mark and Vinny were featured in a HBO documentary, Positively Naked (progressive family viewing, despite the provocative title). Click this link to watch on YouTube

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Click here to visit the website with our best “Clips” of pieces in all media featuring us or created by us.

Response to PrEP with Truvada

Response to PrEP with Truvada

Of course I’m 100% sex-positive, but I do worry about (a) what sort of Truvada resistant stains of HIV we’ll breed, (b) Truvada is a strong drug and long-term effects could be pretty serious, and (c) a condom prevents all disease transmission; will increased bareback sex lead to a rise in Hep C, and other drug resistant STDs.

— Mark De Solla Price

I passed out, was non-responsive for 6 hours, hospitalized for 4 days

On Thursday 3/13 at 5 PM I passed out and fell in our bedroom on the RIGHT side of my back surgery area and was non-responsive for the next six hours.

Vinny called 911 and I came-to in the ER. I was in Beth Israel Hospital for four days, and got out late last night. Vinny was hospitalized for an overnight too.

They call my event a “Syncope” (pronounced SIN-CO-PEA and being medical-speak for any sort of passing out) and was probably the effect of the pain PLUS getting too dehydrated over a few days (and the toxic effect of the almost 300 prescription pills I take each week), PLUS adding an additional high-blood pressure drug and a “stress event” with our landlord — all this against my too long list of serious medical issues I am dealing with that make me more sensitive.

Many folks have asked if it had anything to do with my fall on 2/25 on my back surgery area with the resulting higher pain meds — we know it did NOT have anything to do with the Fentanyl pain patch or Oxycodone.

I am home resting comfortably, Vinny is doing well, and I have a week full of doctor’s appointments and tests, just to follow-up and rule things out.

I feel VERY loved by so many of our friends who went to such great lengths to take care of me, Vinny, Troika (our dog) while we were in hospital. THANK YOU ALL!

Mark de Solla Price talks “The Interdependent Web of All Existence”

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Mark de Solla Price

Mark de Solla Price talks about “The Interdependent Web of All Existence”

August 25, 2013 at 11:00 am;
Drop In Choir Rehearsal at 10:00 am

First Unitarian Congregational Society of Brooklyn [Heights]

Rev. McKinney Chapel (enter on Pierrepont between Clinton and Monroe)

50 Monroe Place, Brooklyn Heights, NY 11201

Mark de Solla Price is an Atheist, Unitarian Universalists, and Zen Buddhist living in Greenwich Village. Mark is a writer, public speaker, gay/lesbian/transgender and civil rights activist, HIV/AIDS aging and health educator and technology/management consultant.

He is the author of the critically acclaimed book Living Positively in a World with HIV/AIDS from Avon Books/Hearst Magazines and numerous blogs, feature articles and magazine stories. He Produced the Off-Broadway Musicals Tallulah! with Helen Gallagher and the upcoming Boston/Provincetown transplant Mildred Fierce with Ryan Landry.

Mark has been living with HIV/AIDS for over thirty years and been in a same-sex marriage to Vinny Allegrini for almost twenty years. Mark and Vinny were featured subjects in the HBO documentary Positively Naked with Spencer Tunick; he has been a media spokesman for same-sex marriage equality and a long-time advocate of the hospice movement. He continues to be a frequent contributor to POZ Magazine, a regular public speaker at the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center.

Mark was one of the leaders of “The Healing Circle” in the 1980’s and1990’s. He is an active member of and First Unitarian Congregational Society of Brooklyn. [Heights] and continues to serve on many charitable boards, and was Board Chair of The Community Church of New York Unitarian Universalist and was a long-time member of the Ethelwyn Doolittle Justice and Outreach Fund that gives annual grants supporting human rights, civil liberties, racial justice, and environmental concerns. In 2009 and 2010, Mark served on the panel awarding the annual Jerry Davidoff Sermon Award from the Unitarian Universalists for Jewish Awareness. and was one of the lay leaders of the Buddhist Explorers Dharma Fellowship for many years.

Mark is the second vice president of the Buddhist Council of New York and has been a student of Zen Buddhism and received the Buddhist precepts from Roshi Enkyo Pat O’Hara, the Abbot and co-founder of the Village Zendo Buddhist Temple, part of the White Plum Asanga.

Mark became ordained as a Secular Humanist Chaplain by the Universal Life Church Monastery. Over the years he has officiated at dozens of memorial services celebrating people’s lives; in the last few years, Mark has expanded his chaplaincy to officiate at both mixed gender and same-sex marriages in New York City.

For more information, Mark’s writing and blogs, thousands of photos, videos, podcasts and services, visit

(for information and directions to First Unitarian Congregational Society of Brooklyn, click here)

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“The Interdependent Web of All Existence” First Unitarian Sermon

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Sunday, August 25, 2013

Order of Service


The Sounding Bowl calls us into the spirit of silence and meditation


Prelude “Chorale Denouement” from ‘Jazz Preludes’ by John Mehegan


Opening Hymn “You’ve Got To Be Carefully Taught*
from South Pacific by Richard Rodgers (Music) and Oscar Hammerstein II (Lyrics)

You’ve got to be taught to hate and fear,

You’ve got to be taught from year to year,

It’s got to be drummed in your dear little ear,

You’ve got to be carefully taught.

You’ve got to be taught to be afraid

Of people whose eyes are oddly made,

And people whose skin is a diff’rent shade,

You’ve got to be carefully taught.

You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late,

Before you are six or seven or eight,

To hate all the people your relatives hate,

You’ve got to be carefully taught!


* You are invited to stand in body or in spirit for those sections with an asterix.


Words of Welcome    Jacque Schultz


Lighting the Chalice*


Song of Hope*

From all that dwell below the skies

Let songs of hope and faith arise.

Let peace, good will on earth be sung

Through every land by every tongue.


Candles of Memory and Hope*



Welcoming Visitors, Newcomers and Fellow Congregants


Hymn 1064 “Blue Boat Home by Peter Mayer
Though below me, I feel no motion

Standing on these mountains and plains

Far away from the rolling ocean

Still my dry land heart can say

I’ve been sailing all my life now

Never harbor or port have I known

The wide universe is the ocean I travel

And the earth is my blue boat home


Sun, my sail and moon, my rudder

As I ply the starry sea

Leaning over the edge in wonder

Casting questions into the deep

Drifting here with my ship’s companions

All we kindred pilgrim souls

Making our way by the lights of the heavens

In our beautiful blue boat home


I give thanks to the waves upholding me

Hail the great winds urging me on

Greet the infinite sea before me

Sing the sky my sailor’s song

I was born upon the fathoms

Never harbor or port have I known

The wide universe is the ocean I travel

And the earth is my blue boat home




Hymn “Smile” by Charlie Chaplin (music), John Turner and Geoffrey Parsons (lyrics)

Smile though your heart is aching

Smile even though it’s breaking

When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by

If you smile through your fear and sorrow

Smile and maybe tomorrow

You’ll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness

Hide every trace of sadness

Although a tear may be ever so near

That’s the time you must keep on trying

Smile, what’s the use of crying?

You’ll find that life is still worthwhile

If you just smile

That’s the time you must keep on trying

Smile, what’s the use of crying?

You’ll find that life is still worthwhile

If you just smile


Sermon: “The Interdependent Web of All Existence

by Mark de Solla Price, Secular Humanist Chaplain


Anthem “What a Wonderful World by Bob Thiele and George David Weiss

I see trees of green, red roses too.

I see them bloom, for me and you.

And I think to myself, what a wonderful world.

I see skies of blue and clouds of white.

The bright blessed day, the dark sacred night.

And I think to myself, what a wonderful world

The colours of the rainbow, so pretty in the sky.

Are also on the faces of people going by.

I see friends shakin’ hands, sayin’ “How do you do?”

They’re really saying “I love you.”

I hear babies cryin’, I watch them grow.

They’ll learn much more than I’ll ever know.

And I think to myself, what a wonderful world.

Yes, I think to myself, what a wonderful world



Postlude “The Internationale by Pierre Degeyter (Music) and Jerry Engelbach (Piano Arrangement) *


You are invited to stand, as Albert Schweitzer put it, “In Reverence for All Life”


Benediction by Mark de Solla Price


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Mark de Solla Price, Secular Humanist Chaplain

Jacque Schultz, Worship Assistant

Harrison Beck, Summer Music Director and Piano

Dawn Elane Reed, Drop-In Choir Leader

Rob Petrillo, First Unitarian Director of Congregational Services


This sermon will be available on


Mark talks about CitiBike for The Daily Show with Jon Stewart

Well, I was stopped on the street yesterday and was asked what I thought about the implementation of the new shared Bike system being tested in Manhattan.

A rather unflattering edit was broadcast on The Daily Show with Jon Stewart on Thursday, June 6, 2013.

For the record: I am in favor of the idea, but the placement of the bike racks caused many unintended consequences that could have been avoided with better communication. I gave the example of the steps that movie location shoots go through with posting notices and actually listening to and resolving complaints promptly. CitiBike has a website, but I have not heard of a single rack that has been moved — even ones that block handicap access.

Here is the clip. My 30 seconds of fame start 7:20 into the clip Daily_Show_2013-06-06_CitiBike



Mark and Vinny’s Marriage Vows

Marriage Vows

Vinny and Mark wrote these vows on a Summer day in Strawberry Fields, Central Park, New York City:

“As we reaffirm this sacred bond of marriage, we renew our wedding vows and pledge to do whatever it takes to celebrate life together, and live to the fullest in the present moment. We will strive to be brave when facing life’s challenges together, and we will laugh and love and hold each other often. We will do whatever we can to help each other to be healthy and grow along our own unique paths. We promise to always be supportive of one another with gentleness and love, and communicate honestly and openly, no matter what. We will create a wonderful home together that can be an oasis filled with serenity, happiness, and our love. And most of all, we will cherish this never-ending love for one another and for our family and our friends.”

(Mark and Vinny signed this in front of 125 of our family and friends and a rabbi on September 3, 1995.)